WHERE DO YOU LIFE: Chicago, USA
WHAT PROBLEM WERE YOU TRYING TO SOLVE:
Every day was a struggle. I struggled to get up in the morning. I struggled with depression. I struggled with cigarettes and alcohol. I struggled to feel valuable. I struggled to make enough money to pay my bills. I struggled to be motivated to do anything.
HOW WAS THE PROBLEM AFFECTING YOU:
My life was passing me by. I was single, poor, depressed and really struggling to feel valuable or worthy of anything. I hated my life and felt powerless to do anything about it.
WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED IF YOU HAD NOT CHOSEN TO WORK WITH ROSS:
I don’t know. To be honest I don’t want to think about it. I reached out to a group of about 1,000 people via social media and a handful said something encouraging publicly, but that was it, they really didn’t care.
Except for Ross. I was shocked when he responded privately, it was clear he genuinely cared. We’d never met before and he knew nothing about me, but he took the time to respond to me personally. To be honest it was a bit strange at first, I’d never met anyone who genuinely care about other people they didn’t know. He is an amazing human being and I have learnt so much from his wisdom and generosity.
WHY DID YOU CHOOSE ROSS PEPPER:
Well actually I struggled to accept his help initially, I couldn’t understand why he would care. I mean I didn’t think I was worthy of anyone’s attention, so why would he help me. But I was desperate and I knew I needed help. He made it really easy to say yes and was so incredibly inspiring from the beginning. He was tough though, he made it clear I was not going to waste his time. That was possibly the best gift he gave me in the beginning, that I could have anything I ever dreamt of, but I was going to have to earn it.
HOW DID YOUR THINKING CHANGE:
I can’t begin to tell you in all the ways my thinking changed. I am a completely different person today than I was then. In just a few months I went from depressed, self loathing and hopeless; to focused, excited about life and starting my very own business!
To give you an idea about some of the extraordinary transformations in my thinking, here are a few things he helped me change. I no longer smoke. I went from hating myself to being inspired by myself.
I stopped drinking and watching television and now invest my time and money in personal development. I saw no choices and now I see choices and opportunities everywhere. I went to bed late and now I wake up early, getting more done before 9am than I used to achieve in a whole day. I used to worry about how I looked and now I don’t care what others think and the irony, people are now inspired by me. There is a lot more, but one of the biggest things for me, I went from being scared and feeling like a victim, to seeking the uncomfortable, getting outside my comfort zone and being ok to fail and grow. In fact actively chasing that growth. It’s an amazing and exhilarating feeling. I really do finally feel alive.
WHAT WAS THE RESULT:
Within a couple of months I had a brand new job with another company and I was getting paid way more than my previous salary. I really enjoyed the work and I was already setting new goals and targets.
6 weeks later I quit my job, packed up and moved across the country to start my first business. The most surprising thing was how easily I made that choice. The confidence I had in my own ability to be in charge of my own destiny was beyond anything I could have thought possible. I love the feeling of knowing I am enough, I am loveable and the only acceptance I need is my own. Thanks Ross!